For the first time since 1888, Thanksgiving and Hanukkah will occur on the same date. Hanukkah starts on the same day every year on the Hebrew calendar, but since the months of Hebrew calendar only have 29 or 30 days, the Jewish year has about 11 days less than the 365 day Gregorian calendar. To try and sync things up, an extra “leap month” is added 7 times, every 19 years.
Some believe this won’t happen again for another 100 years. others believe the 2 will converge again in 79,000 years and others believe the two holidays will never occur together again.
Either way, this won’t happen again in my lifetime, so tomorrow is a double joyous event for my family and myself. Although, when you’re suffering with a chronic illness, no holiday is particularly joyous. Holidays, since I’ve been ill, are extremely stressful, worrisome and tiring. I am trying to put a positive light on getting together tomorrow with friends and family, but I am having a particularly bad day, as I didn’t sleep much last night and I am worried that I won’t be up to celebrating tomorrow.
I have carefully planned out this week, so that I’ve had no doctors appointments. I rested all day Monday, went out yesterday for an hour to do a few errands and am in all day today and again on Friday, yet I am not sure I will be up to participating in the holiday.
For healthy people, the holiday is a one day event, for us chronic sufferers, it’s a week of careful planning and resting. Nobody gets what we have to go through to be able to enjoy a few hours of celebrating.
Before I was ill, holidays were always enjoyable. I have a small family and we all get along very well, so it was never uncomfortable duing a holiday. I never dreaded being with family as so many people do because of personality problems.
Now holidays are really just an inconvenience for me and it is so hard to enjoy them, but I am going to really try. I have done everything I possible can to help myself: spaced in rest days; have all medications on hand so I don’t need to run to the pharmacy; have a food delivery coming to my house so I don’t have to go to supermarket; have communicated with my family my limits and that I may need to leave the table to rest; have made sure there are healthy choices at the dinner table.
The rest is up to the Universe.
I am beginning to realize that even when you are in a situation that makes you unhappy, it is easy to think that you have nothing to be thankful for. But sometimes, it’s the exact time to practice an “attitude of gratitude”. Thanksgiving is a day to reflect on all we have to be thankful for, but we have to think like that every single day of the year.
May you all get to enjoy a Happy and Relatively Pain Free Holiday!!